A cancer diagnosis prompts many large, life-altering questions about treatment options, next steps, and survival. Yet, after months or even years focused purely on the question of surviving, gradually other more everyday questions of daily life begin to come back into focus. One of the most common and yet most difficult of these questions to ask is: What does sex and sexuality look like after cancer?

Many cancer survivors do not feel they have the right to ask about sex after their treatment is through. They think, “I survived, I should be grateful.” Yet, questions about sex are completely normal. In fact, the return of sexual desire after cancer is a natural indicator that the survivor is returning to a place of health. Here at the Center for Women’s Sexual Health, we work closely with cancer survivors to normalize questions about sexuality after cancer and to create a dialogue on how sex can function moving forward.